For many parents, talking about sexuality with their children is a complicated topic, so homosexuality can be an even more thorny issue. However, as we have come a long way in terms of civil rights and sexual freedom, sooner or later the child will come home asking: Why have I seen two men kiss? o Why does a classmate from school have two moms, instead of a mother and a father?
Be prepared for the moment
When the child approaches the subject of homosexuality, the parents must be prepared to face it, which means that they should not make a storm in a glass of water but react naturally. It is not convenient that you change the subject or avoid the subject because the child will understand that you want to hide something or that it is a taboo. If you can’t answer him at that time, validate his question and tell him that you can talk about it when you get home. But don’t forget to keep your promise.
It is important that you take sexuality as something natural, about which you can speak frankly. Although you do not need to give too many details. Make sure that the child can understand your explanation and, above all, do not focus exclusively on sexual attraction but on love between people.
Put aside prejudices
There are different opinions about homosexuality, but it is important that you remember that your mission as a father is not to instill your ideas but to prepare him so that he can reflect and draw his own conclusions. This means that you should put aside any kind of prejudice. When your child asks about homosexuality, it is best to answer objectively.
Do not express value judgments because that way you will only be conditioning their opinion. In addition, it is likely that at school he has a classmate who comes from a homoparental family, so you do not want the child to offend or reject another child.
Your child is likely to ask you why someone is gay. In this case, it is best to explain that there are two theories in this regard: one affirms that it is a genetically determined condition, which is why one is “born homosexual”, and another theory affirms that it is a personal choice influenced by factors of a family and social nature. In any case, it is essential that you emphasize the fact that, regardless of people’s sexual orientation, it is important to respect their decision.
Explain that it is a controversial topic, which is why some homosexuals are humiliated or suffer injustice, but that their sexual orientation is not a reason to discriminate against them or treat them differently. In fact, did you know that according to a survey conducted by the State Federation of Lesbians, Gays, Transsexuals and Bisexuals, more than 50% of students have suffered harassment for their sexual condition?
Turn to literature
There are different children’s books that can help the child to better understand homosexuality. What is intended to achieve through these readings is the normalization of homosexuality, so that the child does not develop prejudices but is able to put himself in the place of the other person so that he does not discriminate against him.
For example, “The day of the red frog” and “Aitor has two mothers” are books that serve to explain the homoparental family. Other stories are: “Julia, the girl who had the shadow of a boy” and “Mom’s dress”, perfect to explain the misunderstanding and rejection experienced by many children who are “different” because their tastes do not match those of their gender .